Ever the Bridesmaid but never the Bride

Ever the bridesmaid and never the bride

I remember that for a long time in my career I was really good at what I did but I was also a behind the scenes girl. I was ever the bridesmaid but never the bride.

I had great ideas, a hard worker and if you were to ask me. I was really ambitious and wanted a visible leadership position.

But I also didn’t, see I was harbouring beliefs whether conscious or unconscious that it wasn’t safe to be in a visible leadership position.

That the pressure that came with the fear of disapproval, the fear of not being good enough and of what I believed that level of success came with was just too great for me to ‘allow’ myself to attract that into my life.

It was only when I was ready to let go of those beliefs, let go of them enough so I could allow that level of visibility and success to become a reality in my life.

That doesn’t mean however, that there wasn’t any race and gender bias and discrimination that was playing out in my life as a Black Woman. And that those who exercised it were not at fault. It does mean I was participating in that reality based on the beliefs I held to be true.

That’s the reason why we solve the problem of lack of representation and retention of Black Women leaders by not just ‘fixing’ the Black woman, we also need to ‘fix’ the companies she is to work in.


#blackwomeninleadership #blackwomenintech #blackwomeninstem #blackgirlsrock #blackwomenrock #blackwomenintheworkplace

Published by Hlatswayobusisiwe

MBA (Henley), Career Coach and Founder Black Women in the workplace www.blackwomenintheworkplace.com

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