Are you too identified with your story of struggle?

Are you too identified with your story of struggle?

Shonda Rhimes in her book ‘Year of Yes’ narrates her observations of what consistently happens in a room of successful women when they are complemented.

She says that they either get shocked or are embarrassed and want the moment to quickly pass. That most of us haven’t learnt to embrace and own our greatness.

I was recently in a room full of women who we asked to tell the stories of their lives and how they define themselves based on that.

Ninety nine percent of the room defined themselves through a story of survival. These stories we all about bouncing back, enduring and making it through suffering.

They were powerful stories but I questioned how these ladies defined themselves. These were not forward looking stories, these stories did not demonstrate anticipation and excitement for the next level, of the expansion that life can bring.

These stories demonstrated confidents of their ability to survive struggle. Someone said the battle goes for the one who is wearing an armour. We all know of people who seem to be moving from one struggle or drama after another.

An identity of a survivor often attract situations that one it confirms their identity of survival. Survivors only draw struggle from their stories. No joy, no fun, just struggle and making it through.

Maybe it’s time you told a different story so you can have a different experience. Maybe it’s time you tell a story of what you are looking forward to, working towards, building instead of what you’ve survived. Travel light.

Are you a Black Woman in the Workplace who feels called to the next level of leadership, income and impact?

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Published by Hlatswayobusisiwe

MBA (Henley), Career Coach and Founder Black Women in the workplace

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