Do you have the emotional capacity right now?
I regularly sit in front of Black women who are struggling to stay engaged in their jobs, not necessarily because they work in a toxic environment. Some of them do, but because their childhood trauma has caught up with them and demands space to be processed.
When it’s time to process the layers and layers of suppressed trauma that your system cannot suppress any more and you are bursting at the seams; You don’t have the emotional capacity to be the reliable, good Black woman, daughter, friend, lover, partner and even employee.
Your house is on fire. When your house is on fire, other people’s houses may be on fire too but it’s time to tend to your house. Otherwise you will have nothing to come back to when you are done putting out other people’s fire.
There was a time in my life when my house was on fire. I had to line up all my resources including my money, time and availability both physical and emotional to put out the fire in my house. I took time away from everyone, except for a few who took the responsibility, often one sided to be in my life.
This was a gift I gave to myself and I will be forever grateful. I also come out with more emotional capacity to deal with what I couldn’t when my house was on fire . I also gained the wisdom to take a time out when I don’t have the emotional capacity to deal with something at the moment and come back to it when I do.
Do you have the emotional capacity for this right now? Or do you need to take time off and circle back when you do?
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