What is my ultimate intention with this interaction?
The workplace can be a trigger house of conflict creating micro-aggressions, toxic competition, disrespect and bullying. When your trigger buttons are pressed, just like any habitual behaviour that happens automatically after a cue, you can react in ways that are less than ideal.
Considering that there’s already a perception and bias that as women, our emotions are out of control and we are not able to manage them, such that working with some of us is like navigating a minefield where you never know when the next explosion may come from. We know that bias creates unfair scrutiny and attribution, but it is what it is.
You want to be intentional about your interactions. You want to have space between trigger and response. A space to reflect and clarify your response. You can do that when you are well rested and cared for. You can do that when your healing work is providing you with the emotional capacity to slow down and reflect. You can do that when your filled your cup enough to give grace to those who don’t deserve it because your intentions about this interaction are clear and in focus.
It is therefore prudent to remember to ask this about each interaction, especially the ones that test you: what is my ultimate intention with this interaction?
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