Villain in someone else’s story?

A villain in someone else’s story?

The truth is that most of the challenges we face in the workplace are relationship dynamics. The wounds from our life experiences show up as patterns of behaviour that morph into our personalities creating triggers and clashes with other personalities.

As a recovering people pleasers who had an intense fear of disapproval the reality that no matter how nice I can be. People can have their own interpretations of my actions and decide that they don’t like me was a hard pill to swallow.

When I accepted that while in the process of living my life, working hard, making moves someone can perceive me as a villain and no amount of explaining myself I found freedom. I finally understood that the work is reconciling me with me. That I need to approve of myself, be at home with who I am. Live life according to my own values.

I learned that as much as I’m responsible for the management of my brand; I give my power away when I am too invested in the narrative other people have about me. It is inevitable that I’m going to be a villain in someone else is story and for my own well being I need to be okay with that.


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My name is Busisiwe Hlatswayo and I coach Black women to position themselves for leadership, navigate race and gender bias and be effective leaders in the workplace and the market place

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Published by Hlatswayobusisiwe

MBA (Henley), Career Coach and Founder Black Women in the workplace

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