Are you really living a life of integrity?

Are you really living a life of integrity? I’ve always thought of the definition of integrity as being ethical and honest. I was fascinated when I came across the second definition of integrity which is being integrated, embodied,etc. As opposed to split, divided, disjointed, etc. I have realised that prevalent socialisation did not support myContinue reading “Are you really living a life of integrity?”

Are you willing to leave spaces that cannot handle the fullness of who you are?

Are you willing to leave spaces that cannot handle the fullness of who you are? I have come to the realisation that I am not for everyone. That different people receive me differently and that impacts on how fully I can show up with those people. There are people who can’t stand me. I’m tooContinue reading “Are you willing to leave spaces that cannot handle the fullness of who you are?”

How can you live this day, the way you want to live the rest of your life?

How can you live this day, the way you want to live the rest of your life? When I was young everything was about preparation for the future. At some point in my mid thirties I realised that this is the future. I started pondering what it means to live in ‘the future’. Turning 40Continue reading “How can you live this day, the way you want to live the rest of your life?”

Do you really think you are that powerful?

Do you really think you are that powerful? It is starting to dawn to me that Black men have decided that Black women are responsible for everything that’s going badly in their lives and in society as a whole. I’m baffled by this thinking, how are we that powerful? I’ve been following the discussion onContinue reading “Do you really think you are that powerful?”

Are you giving yourself enough grace?

Are you giving yourself enough grace? Working as a Black woman in Corporate, especially as a first Corporate professional in your family can feel like being thrown in a as a player in complicated game without being given the rules and tools of the game. The Black experience is not monolithic, however most of usContinue reading “Are you giving yourself enough grace?”

Will you give yourself the permission to lean in into the discomfort?

Will you give yourself the permission to lean in into the discomfort? As a Black woman in the workplace, what do you do when you learn that you are not a perfect victim? Do you dig in, go into denial or do you lean in to the discomfort to learn what wisdom it has forContinue reading “Will you give yourself the permission to lean in into the discomfort?”

Are you allowing time to be your tyrant?

Are you allowing time to be your tyrant? There seems to be a general consensus that time is limited and we have to make productive use of each moment. The Covid-19 lockdown showed us that this is not true. There is plenty of time and a lot of what we choose to fill our timeContinue reading “Are you allowing time to be your tyrant?”

Are you missing the power of this moment?

Are you missing the power of this moment? I find it fascinating and sad that after experiencing a huge breakthrough some of my coaching clients would focus on how many years they have wasted obsessing over this thing that has taken less than an hour to process and release. It saddens me that, instead ofContinue reading “Are you missing the power of this moment?”

Don’t you know, that what you don’t know can hurt you?

Don’t you know, that what you don’t know can hurt you? I recently coached a Black woman, she was not the first one to come to me with problem. She failed to qualify to become a CA (Chartered Accountant) over a decade ago. Even though she is a smart, hard working woman, she has beenContinue reading “Don’t you know, that what you don’t know can hurt you?”