Believing a lie

Growing up our families was among the poorest in our street and in our church

I had never met anyone who was a Hlatshwayo who was doing well financially. I picked up the belief that the Hlatshwayo surname was cursed and all of us were poor.

It’s fascinating that when you have a belief, you find evidence for the truth of that belief or rather you avoid any evidence that dispels it.

It was literally, I kid you not, only in my 20s that I started meeting or hearing about Hlatshwayo’s who were successful and now I meet them all the time. But up until that time this was an absolute truth to me.

How do you imagine it affected my sense of self worth; and as a result what I allowed myself to attempt and the energy that accompanied those attempts?

I believe that even if there is an ultimate truth, all of us have a glimpse of a perspective of that truth. Because that perspective is shaped by our world view which is shaped by our experiences, what we’ve been exposed to.

If that’s the case then that one should deliberately choose their beliefs. Choose beliefs that align with their ultimate intentions. Continuously examine the beliefs they hold, whether they align with their ultimate intentions or not, and release those that don’t.

Isn’t that the purpose of life,to fulfill our ultimate intentions?

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We do not fight for that which is ours

We may have absorbed the belief that the woman who is creating the next level of income and impact and legacy, the woman who shows up at the next level of leadership. The woman we are intending to be, is someone we are currently not.

Someone we are trying to be. That we have to build her, fight for her, strain and discipline ourselves to become her. All of these maybe valid and will probably form part of the actions we are going to take on our journey to the next level.

The problem with this way of thinking is that it constantly keeps us as an outsider from our intentions. Such that even if we achieve this level of leadership, income and impact from sheer will and hard work, we will achieve from a position of an imposter.

We will always be afraid that we might make a mistake that will take us back, we might drop the ball and lose it all.

There is another way, a way of embodiment of the woman you are becoming now, before you experience her in your physical reality. This taps into the full power of your intentions. This way raises you above your current limitations and circumstances.

Because everything that has ever been created, was first conceptualised in the imagination before it was created physical. This is the same way you can create who you are becoming.

You have to follow the laws of creation, first the conceptualisation and embodiment then the physical creation or manifestation.

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When our childhood wounds show up in the Workplace.

We take who we are in every area of our lives. The notion of professionalism has a lot of merit but it has its limitations. It presupposes that we should wear a mask, leave some of who we are at home. That may be necessary but it doesn’t always work.

I believe that two things can be both true at the same time. Someone can be accountable for abusing you and you could also be attracting an opportunity to expose and deal with your childhood wounds that dance with that specific abuse.

The abuser is accountable, you do not deserve to be abused, you are a victim of their abuse. At the same time, the universe is providing you with an opportunity to deal with your demons. Otherwise abusers would continue abusing but do not have to mess with you or trigger you.

When looking back over my professional life over the last decade and half, the workplace has exposed and provided me an opportunity to heal a number of my childhood wounds that showed up as victimhood, fear of disapproval, people pleasing, naivety, fear of advocating for myself. I continue to do my own work.

The workplace would be an easy place, if all we dealt with was inanimate objects. Unfortunately and fortunately we are dealing with people, people who are both wounded and beautiful. People whose wounds dance with ours.

It’s only when we interrupt and change our inner patterns through healing our own wounds that we stop the dance. We can’t wait until they do theirs. They may never change.

When you change circumstances change, they either get removed, no longer trigger you or stop being directed to you.

Things change when you change.

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Freedom is one of my highest values

As soon as I am convinced that I am no longer free I leave any situation no matter the consequences. I am not impulsive, I would take time to observe and analyse then make my decision. I must add, every time I have chosen to leave I have expanded.

Freedom to me is love, expansion and respect as opposed to obligation, fear or shame. Nothing is more sacred to me.

When I left the church, it was for the same reason, the God that I was being taught was not just about love but he was also very much about fear, control and unjustifiable inconsistencies.

When I broke my engagement and any other friendship, love and family relationship; It was when I felt it was no longer about love, expansion and respect and had become about obligation, extraction and devaluation.

The same as when I left toxic workplaces – there have been a few . It had stopped being about passion, expansion and building and had become about devaluation, mistreatment and control. The psychological contract had been breached and it had become about survival.

I pride myself for having always chose freedom when these choices were put at the table. Freedom to me is choosing myself, my peace, my joy, my expansion. Unapologetically putting myself first. That’s the only way I can give be of true purpose, when I pour from a full cup.

I tend to attract Coaching clients who are similar to me in that sense. Who value Freedom, expansion and passion.

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I release what no longer serves me

I read Viola Davis’s memoir ‘Finding me’ in one sitting. I could relate to so much. The alcoholic violent father, the sexual abuse, the poverty and a lot more. I did not go through everything she did, this is not a contest of who had it worse but I could relate.

What I also could relate to is the impact of that wounded inner child and how she seeped into every area of my life including my career and created consistent, inconsistencies.

I was both ambitious and inadequate, bold and had social anxiety, courageous and people pleasing, confident but fearful of people’s disapproval.

I did my healing work and a lot of that is no longer there. I had to get to a point where I could acknowledge that I’m good at what I do, that I’m worthy of making my dreams come true, I am worthy of being loved, valued respected and supported. I give my self the permission to be the sovereign over my life. That I could support the women that I choose to serve in doing the same.

I am still doing my work and everyday I am getting better and better.

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• Detach from, release and heal your inner wounds, your inner limitations so you can embody your empowered next level identity

• Tap into the power of your intentions, the creator within. So you can deliberately create your results and stop being a victim of other people’s approval

• Step into an identity that aligns with the level of income you want to earn and the level of leadership you want to show up at.

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Creating a legacy, making an impact

I am proud of what I have accomplished in the workplaces I have worked at. I know that almost everyone who has worked with me can attest to my hard work, character and dedication.

I have dedicated myself to a quest of learning and self improvement and I have taken all that and have put that into my work. I was never perfect, I was always learning and improving.

I am proud of the legacy of leadership I have left behind. I have quantifiable improvements I have made in the workplaces I have worked in especially where I was in a position of leadership.

I am also proud of what I have helped my coaching clients accomplish and those who worked with me accomplish. I have been gifted with the ability to inspire greatness, the next level for those I work with.

My next level of leadership, impact and income is to continue to help my clients achieve even more for themselves. I’m also looking forward to building my company from what it is currently; my employer to an independent institution, a legacy that will outlive me. I’m here for all the ups and downs. I value myself enough and I know that I am fully supported, that my intentions are powerful and I can trust the wisdom and guidance of my intuition.

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Sitting on hot coals because they are familiar

I’m finding it fascinating how adaptable we are as human beings. I suppose that it is a strength. To be able to endure suffering, to withstand toxicity, broken promises just because it is familiar and we are afraid of the unknown.

I know how scary the unknown is. I have left many, many familiar places, people and things. Places that defined me, nurtured me and also broke me.

I was able to leave because there were tools. I was supported. By others who’ve walked the road before me, by coaches and mentors, by knowledge (there’s still so much to discover) and sometimes by the sheer strength of my conviction.

You don’t have to keep sitting on those hot coals. You are not a tree, you can move, you can change your mind, you can learn new skills

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Your analytical brain

I love watching cult documentaries. It’s always fascinating to me how a person can get you to believe in something a 100% such that you are not able to detect when things are no longer in alignment with what you signed up for.

The people stay stuck in these places are failing to exercise their analytical mind. The part of us that looks at the cold hard facts, asses and make a decision. I say that we need a good dose of that, in a world full of predators such as ours don’t you?

However, the analytical brain when taken to extremes can serve as a barrier. A barrier for us to up-level. Because for one to up-level, they need to adopt a new belief system and let go of the current belief system that keeps them where the are.

New beliefs often feel uncomfortable, because they are not aligned with our comfortable habitual way of thinking and being.

In that instance our analytical brain kicks in, finds all the reasons why these new beliefs are not true. Then we quickly revert to default.

Your analytical brain can bring you the

safety of conviction but it leaves no space for new thought/beliefs and therefore no space for new results.

Which one do you choose today? Safe and same old or uncomfortable but new results?

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It’s not fair!…..

One of the main ways that limiting beliefs show up in our quest for successful and impactful lives is through resistance.

Resistance to do even the easiest of things. Resistance to send that email, to finish that proposal, to register for that course. To apply for that job, to initiate a conversation with that person.

Resistance is not lazyness, just like procrastinating is not a character trait. It is a way of protecting ourselves from the outcome that we subconsciously believe is not good for us.

We may believe that legitimate success can only come through hard work and therefore resist any action that will make success easy.

We may believe that we have been too lucky already, that having more success is not fair on others who have it harder. We may harbour an unconscious belief that we have to punish ourselves, we have to make it as hard as possible for us to feel legitimate in our success.

You are a creator of your own reality, if you believe it should be hard, you will make it hard, you will reject ease, you will block miracles. It doesn’t have to be that way, isn’t it time to allow for a different experience?

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